16 Principles of Empowered Relationships

by Doug & Tracy Kelley

Note: These principles are the same characteristics that make Doug & Tracy Kelley's relationship one of the best on the planet. They are offered here as a list only. More will be written in time as a further means of explanation. 

These 16 Principles are meant as a stand-alone list. They are being consolidated into 10 basic principles in a future eBook.

1. Know and accept yourself

2. For personal/intimate relationships, find someone with whom you have much in common (high compatibility)

3. Show mutual honor and respect for personal boundaries (yours and theirs)

4. Communicate

5. Never betray another’s trust

6. Be open to change, new ideas, and others’ points of view—be flexible

7. Don’t try to change, control, or manipulate others—accept others for who they are, not who you want them to be

8. Have realistic expectations of yourself and others—no perfectionism —allow yourself and them to be "human"

9. Don’t take yourself too seriously—say “I’m Sorry” if necessary

10. Forgive and forget everyday mistakes freely (excluding a serious betrayal of trust)

11. Respond, don’t react—think before you speak

12. Don’t take others for granted

13. Don’t be critical or accusatory

14. Don’t do for others that which they could and should do for themselves

15. Be a warm, positive, and encouraging friend—celebrate others’ successes

16. Settle only for Win-Win

© Copyright 2000-2006 Kelley Training Systems, Inc. Doug Kelley is a Professional Speaker, Trainer, Author, Consultant, and Coach who helps business professionals excel in managing workplace relationships by way of training and coaching in Assertive Communication Skills, Assertive Leadership Skills, Assertive Team Skills, and Assertive Customer Service. Doug is also the Founder of Empowered Recovery, a unique self-help program for the friends and family of alcoholics. Please visit his websites for more information: www.DougKelley.com, www.KelleySkillPlex.com, www.EmpoweredRecovery.com.